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Top 20 Gay Blogger Influential Personalities

Wednesday, August 31st, 2011

This is a list of what I think is the top 20 Bloggers relevant to the gay community. I would like your input, so please do let me know what you think about my list.

1. – A good site on the gay community including daily updates, celebrity updates, political updates and general information relevant to a gay community.

2. – EDGE is the largest network of local Gay, Lesbian Bisexual and Transgender (GLBT) news and entertainment portals in the world, serving 500,000 dedicated readers from a variety of metropolitan areas around the United States and beyond.

3. – A good travel site catering to the gay community needs with lots of information on places to travel, stay, enjoy and have a great time while on the road.

4. – A writer for over 20 years and has written a lot on both fiction and non-fiction for the LGBT community.

5. – This site has consistently been ranked in top 10 gay blogs over the years. Lots of information to read through.

6. – Queers United is the blog uniting the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersexual, & Asexual communities in an effort of education and activism on issues of importance to sexual/gender minorities.

7. –  Downelink is a social networking community for the LGBTQ community.

8. – A personal blog that has been likened by many in the gay community.

9. – A good information resource for standing up against bullies.

10.  – Author simply called Vera, who has some funny stuff and some sexy stuff here.

11. – Not a dedicated gay site but has lots of funny content relevant to the gay community. I get good laughs from some of these videos.

12. – All the latest news stories about gay community delivered in a satirical manner. A touch of sensitivity is advised.

13. – Not a blog but a great tool to find the next gay guy nearest to you while you are on the go.

14. – A localized version of the gay event happening in your area. Get involved.

15. – Like the site says, it talks about the gay agenda and provides a good source of information.

16.  – Observations of a gay dad. Nice.

17. – Gay community stories and latest happenings

18. – A personal blog with very savvy opinions on different topics.

19. – NSFW, Reviews of sex toys, with humor. Find out what you’re missing as far as intimate devices.


10 Ways to Come Out to your Family and Friends

Tuesday, August 30th, 2011
First of all, there is nothing more painful than not being who you are. And your family and friends love you for who you are. So its perfectly OK to be honest with them and let them know about the real you. Here are some tips that may help you.

1. Write a letter to all your close ones – family and friends – and let them know about your feelings and who you really are. There is nothing more powerful than your emotions and its an amazing human ability to share it with someone. Plus by putting it on paper, you will get more comfortable with the idea.

2. Randomly go through your contact list, and the first person you choose, pick up the phone, call them and tell them you are gay. That easy.

3. Go to a gay-friendly outing with your special someone and let others know about it.

4. If you have a facebook or twitter page, let you followers know about it.

5. Make a blog. Put down your emotions and tell it like it is.

6. Kiss someone.

7. Participate in local gay events like the PRIDE parade.

8. Introduce your special someone to your family and friends.

9. Have a party! there is nothing more joyous than to have a party and share with everyone how happy you are.

10. Go out for lunch or dinner with friends or family and let them know how you really feel.

Top 20 Gay Twitter Influential Personalities

Wednesday, August 10th, 2011
1. @ladygaga – The biggest pop star in the world has empowered millions through her music and outrageous stage acts.  She may or may not be gay herself, but she has more followers than almost anyone else on Twitter and the gay world loves her stance.

2.  @TheEllenShow – Ellen DeGeneres is one of the biggest gay names in a America, although her show is pretty mainstream and the sexuality of the host is not mentioned much, it is important to recognize how many followers she does indeed have.  Ellen purports to do all her tweeting and is original.

3. @PerezHilton – Perez Hilton is one of the biggest names in Hollywood celebrity rumor with some fact mixed in.  If you ever actually read articles off of his website, they are very funny and tongue in cheek.  Looking back at the last 100 tweets or so, it seems there are few or no news tweets, just mentions and the like.

4. @ricky_martin – After Ricky came out his twitter nation grew to huge numbers.  If you’re ready for a little bilingual, music loving fun this is your guy.

5. @stephenfry – This British actor and jack of all trades uses his influence on twitter to promote a multitude of charities as well as promoting not well known music acts.

6.@eddieizzard – A hilarious comedian and has a pinache for attracting attention in a humorous way. He has said many times he is not gay but does like to dress up both as a man and a woman. Thats his personal choice and we stay out of it…just keep the laughs coming.

7. @maddow – This American liberal political commentator, who has her own show on MSNBC might have the most political influence of anyone on this list.

8. @ActuallyNPH – The we all loved as Doogie is all grown up and more than successful on the stage, on TV and the big screen.  NPH confirmed his sexuality in 2006.

9. @samantharonson – Ronson is a musician who is mostly known for her relationship with the Lohan.

10. @SuzeOrmanShow – This personal finance guru told the NYT she was gay in 2007 and in 2010 Forbes named her to their most 100 influential women.

11. @adamlambert – Adam will always be connected to American Idol, but he’s moved on to bigger and better things and continues a successful recording career.

12. @chriscolfer – Chris’ larger than life character on Glee has empowered millions of LGBT and hetero kids across the U.S. Chris has been involved in theater since he was 14.

13. @BravoAndy – Andy Cohen is a TV personality on Bravo and is listed as a producer on a number of shows.

14. @RealMattLucas – Matt is an English comedian who broke out with his show Little Britain, which actually started as a radio show and moved onto the small screen.

15. @MarcJacobsIntl – The name Marc Jacobs means a lot in fashion circles.  He worked his way up to the top and now owns and runs multiple clothing lines.

16. @GeorgeMichael – This 80’s and 90’s pop icon still has much influence across the world in the community.

17. @NOH8Campaign – In protest to the passage of Cali’s prop 8, celebs and noncelebs alike protest with photos, blogs and events.

18. @Rosie – Rosie O’Donnell, need i say more?

19. @GeorgeTakei – Most widely known as Mr. Sulu from the original Star Trek series, Takei has been openly gay, at least to us trekkies, since the 70’s.

20. @janemarielynch – Jane’s Glee character is sad and hilarious all in one, but she has had great characters on American TV and film for quite some time.

10 Hilarious Ways to ask a date to Prom

Tuesday, August 2nd, 2011

There are some really creative and funny ways to get  that special someone to go to prom with you.  Here’s a few great examples.

1. A fun music video with full (fuzzed out) monty.  I’m not a huge fan of the song, but these guys make it fun.  The fun amateur camera stuff works too.  Finally, you must watch to the end to see what makes this an instant classic.

2. Do what we do

Ever thought of starting a blog? Well start a blog on how you have decided to ask you crush to the problem and come up with a few lists.  10 Reason (BLANK) should go to prom with me.  Oh, it’s a thousand times better if you can find away to make it funny and fun.

3. This kid wanted a prom date with a “celebrity,” so he made a series of videos and eventually got his wish.

4. The buddy system always works where friends help you out with the singing like this video:

But what if the girl ends up liking one of your friends more than you and would rather go to the prom with him? ouch:(

5. A good, decent, funny idea always works:

6. This isn’t exactly a hilarious way to ask someone to prom, but it is a collection of great examples of what NOT to do.

7.    The imagination of the young people today is awesome.  This kids put together a hilarious compilation of things not to do…and a funny way to ask his date out.

8.    I just had to add this one, it’s related to the one above, and is just a a blooper reel of this guy’s production.  For some reason I die laughing at bloopers, enjoy.

9.    Ok, this is more cute than hilarious, but the usage of friends and a large crowd puts some serious pressure on the one being proposed to.  Or it could be a major flop and publice embarrassment ensues.

10.  Anytime a group of boys will dance in synchronicity sans shirt its worth taking a look at.  These guys did a pretty good job of it too.

This ended up being a fun little project in finding what I thought were inventive and funny ways to ask a prom date out.  Watch them all, and if you are looking for ideas there are great ones in all of these videos.  But, I have to say I still think starting a blog is the winner, maybe I’m just partial.

10 Ways To Start Dating Your Friend

Sunday, July 31st, 2011
Okay so this is a classic. We all like the emotional stuff like being friends first and then romance or you just fell in love with each other and so on. And it isreally nice to be in love with someone with whom you can also share a friendship. right? But how do you go about getting there? Here are some tips which may help you on this journey. Be cautious.

1. Ground Rules.

First, make sure this is really what you want? And also place some ground rules that your friendship still continues even if the romance did not sparkle or can you do without having a good friend around? If this is clear as mud, bring up this topic in a off-the-cuff discussion and see what your friend says?

2. Coffee.

There is so much you can discuss over a simple coffee. Depending on your friendship, go out for coffee and see how it goes. If there is sparkle, you will know.

3. Dress Up.

If you are casual friends, you may not have seen each other dressed up. So dress up to impress and see what reaction you get.

4. Make Over.

If you have been thinking about getting a makeover, take your friend along for suggestions. In a funny way, see what transpires and what vibes you get. Does the friend suggest ‘funny looks’ or ‘looks to impress’ and that will tell the story.

5. Clothes Shopping.

Okay this is a no-brainer. You go shopping for clothes, obviously you have decent chemistry. See what each other suggests for the other person and see what chemistry develops. While at it, go after some accessories too and get an opinion on that as well. However, stay away from lingerie just yet:)

6. Straight Up
Just ask the other person out. Tell them you value your friendship but have developed some romantic feelings and would like to go out on a date – let the date be casual but give it an official name of a date. If you do not want to lose their friendship regardless of how the romance goes, be clear about it so you dont lose a good friend.

7. Be Different

If you are only ‘coffee’ friends or friends who go watch the latest movie together or bar friends, change the routine. Be different. Pick a different activity and see if the other person enjoys as much spending time with you.

8. Be in the Know.

Short of being an aggressive intruder, see what your friend is upto. What they like to do when you are not around, who they hang out with. It will give you an idea about their life and see if you can figure something out in common.

9. Get involved socially

Pick a social activity to do together. Like volunteering, or neighborhood cleanup, or something community oriented. See if there is mutual interest and/or sparkle.

10. Laugh it out Loud
Tell a funny story related to this topic and see how they react. Like what do you think about having two friends getting romantically involved? Have a discussion about it and see what happens.

How To Date a Co-worker

Thursday, July 21st, 2011

Forty percent of workers surveyed said at some time they did date a coworker.  That’s quite a bit, especially with the possible pitfalls of dating in the office.When dating someone from your workplace, it comes with advantages and disadvantages. Although it may sound really amazing to have someone you are interested in within your reach, this kind of relationship can also lead to complications that may affect not just your personal life but your career as well. Dating your boss or your co-worker could lead your job at risk once you do the wrong move.

Be Sure

Of all things in the work place to be sure of, it is the mutual attraction of your crush.  It might take a little patience and detective work to find out, put is definitely advisable to wait and make sure to keep you from being embarrassed.  If you hardly know them, then get to know them first and make sure you have a balanced life outside of the work place.  If your life is all about the work, there really may be no place for a romance or relationship in your life.  Here is a list of signs that they may be into you:

  • They find a way to hang with you when it isn’t necessary, say at breaks, lunch or simply go out of their way to tell you a joke or chat  with you.
  • They come to talk to you about something that is outside of your work purview.  This could be another sign that they are finding an excuse to talk to you.
  • They compliment you regularly, and on occasion, compliment someone else in your presence to gauge how you react to that.
  • The easiest one to see is just plain flirting, but be careful, some people flirt with everyone as just a way to prevent awkwardness.  So don’t go just off of this one piece of “evidence.”
  • Your coworker laughs or grins at what you know are bad jokes.

Job Consequences

Any office romance can lead to disaster, so it is very important for you to realize the pros and cons of dating a coworker.  Think about how you will be seen at work by others, all the way to the possible break up and how that would play out in the workplace.

  • Dating the boss might be fun, but how will your rep with your coworkers be affected?  Someone is bound to think you are the favored employee now and can foster some bad feelings.
  • A lot of companies do not allow employee fraternization and will transfer, demote or even fire you once they find out. Granted, sometimes that’s part of the thrill.



Just as dating in the real world, you have to find something outside of work that you both enjoy.  If your relationship stays completely based on your work interests you may end up competing with each other, so spend time getting to know each other and find some common ground to foster a true, possibly, long running relationship.

  • Talk to each other about small things OUTSIDE of work and eventually you will be sharing deep thoughts and beliefs.
  • Be funny.  It can be awkward at first when you finally get your crush outside the workplace.  Humor can be your little icebreaker until you’ve really gotten to know them.
  • Don’t gossip about work.  Not only is it a weak and petty thing to talk about, forming a relationship with someone by snickering behind other people’s back cannot turn out well.

Down Low

You should keep the budding relationship on the “down low” early on.  If, say, after two or three dates you both decide it isn’t going anywhere and decide to part ways, then no one else knows and things go back to the way they were.  It’s a bit arbitrary, but give it a month before you let the new get out.

  • Don’t keep hidden for too long.  People can tell over time and trying to keep something like this hidden can end up being a negative.
  • If your company has rules against it, one of you may eventually have to consider moving departments or companies if this relationship turns out to be serious.

The End

If the relationship does end while you are still both working at the company, you should remain professional and leave the emotional stuff at home.

As you can see there are a number of things to consider if you decide to date that cute coworker.  Don’t let your lust override your intelligence and think it through.  Decide whether it would really be worth the risk (which can be part of the fun) and the possible heartache at the end.


10 Celebrities who are probably gay

Monday, July 18th, 2011

These celebrities have been dogged by rumors of being gay for a while. Does their sexual preference really matter? Well, the answer depends on who you ask. Either way, they are some of the top people in their field, and, as a result, get lots of attention – even unwanted attention – for their talent.

1. Oprah Winfrey
Over the years it seems the supposed relationship with her man has gone to the wayside and she spends more time with her BFF Gayle King.  Fans and media alike speculate that they are much more than just BFFs.  These two even vacation together like they are a couple, but the only ones who really know for sure are Oprah and Gayle.

2. Tom Cruise
There’ve been rumors of Cruise playing the other side of the fence for decades.  Although he is “happily” married to actress Katie Holmes, there will always be questions surrounding his sexuality.  For a very long time he was the example of the closeted gay actor who never announced in order to keep those big box office number coming.

3. Queen Latifah
Have you ever actually seen the Queen on a date with a man? This question and her close relationship with personal trainer/friend Jeanette Jenkins are why most people believe she’s gay. In 2010 it was reported that she and Jenkins star had purchased a home and both of these ladies names were on the deed. Enough of Queen Latifah’s fans still see her as a leading lady who often plays in romantic comedies with urban sex symbols like LL Cool J and Common. Her roles are the perfect facade for a secret life.

4. Nicki Minaj
There have been a multitude of rumors regarding Minaj’s orientation.  She’s been paired with men and women and once was even rumored to have married one of a couple of rappers.  Most of her fans don’t believe that, mostly because they believe she is gay.  The real sory is that no one really knows who she is seeing, male or female.

5. Alex Rodriguez
Although the word is that he is seeing actress Cameron Diaz, the rumor mill has never quit on the idea that A-Rod is gay.  His pretty boy looks and love of masculine women have lead many fans and tabloids to believe that he is a homo.  No matter how many boyish hot blonds he dates, there will always be those who believe it’s a ruse.

6. Keanu Reeves:
Reeves has never confirmed or denied which way he swings, but many believe his on the gay side of things, and here’s why.  In 1984, when he was just starting out, he was in a movie called Wolfboy, where his character was bitten sensually by a male prostitute.  There also some photos in the ether of he and the same actor kissing and caressing each other.  There have been a number of other rumors involving Reeves and other male actors, even one of same sex marriage.  The thing is, he sort of fuels the fire by saying in one interview, “ya never know,” when asked about his orientation.

7. James Franco

Franco has gone on record, sort of, that he isn’t gay, but it was worded in such a way that the question lingers and will probably follow him for a very long time. Here’s the quote

“Sure, I’d tell you if I was. I guess the reason I wouldn’t is because I’d be worried that it would hurt my career. I suppose that’s the reason one wouldn’t do that, right? But no, that wouldn’t be something that would deter me… some people think I’m gay because I’ve played these gay roles. That’s what people think, but it’s not true. I’m not gay…”

8. Elijah Wood
Rumors of Elijah’s sexuality have been rampant ever since “The Lord of the Rings” came out  10 years ago.  He has been linked with women, but the word on the set is that he was only around them when the cameras were on, and preferred to be with his guy “friends” whenever he could be.

9. Daniel Radcliffe
After posing for the cover of a gay magazine last year Daniel (Harry Potter) has been trying to shake the gay label.  In a recent interview he stated that he has a girlfriend and wants kids.  The rumors still run rampant, especially after the recent release of the last  Harry Potter installment, but to be honest I’m not convinced on this one.

10. Wentworth Miller
The Prison Break star has been living down rumors of his sexuality ever since he became a star and was photographed hanging out with a known gay man.  This one is pretty questionable as well, since a person CAN be friends with a gay man without being gay himself.  Miller has denied that he is gay a number of times.

8 Signs Your Relationship May be Over

Tuesday, July 12th, 2011

Finding the right partner in life is hard in just the finding.  But once you become a couple sometimes the fire sputters or goes completely cold.   Here’s a few big clues to the end of your latest era.

1.    Cheat
Either you or your other is cheating and/or caught cheating.  If you both cared for each other cheating would never come into the equation.  True, some relationships can survive a cheat, but few do.

2.    Jealousy
Not exactly jealous of each other, but jealous of other couples’ relationships.  If you or your partner feels everyone else’s relationship is better than yours, it’s a sign that moving on is something you need to consider.  Why stick in a relationship where you feel less than special and loved?

3.    It’s Tiring
You used to love to spend time together, but now it’s just a burden to find time to do so.  If you don’t want to spend time with your “better half” there really is no reason to be in the relationship.

4.    The Future
Any sort of future planning that requires a serious commitment is too difficult to agree upon.  If this is the case there probably is no real long term future.  I’m not talking marriage either, it could just be planning a vacation together, or getting tickets to a how six months from now.  This could also mean you or your partner takes their stuff back to their place.

5.    The Fuzzies
Those warm fuzzy feelings are few and far between.  You used to get those goosebumps every time you saw, or even thought of your partner, now it’s just flat and maybe there’s a small overtone of resentment.  This is a a precursor to the detachment that many of us require when we are ready to cut the chord.

6.    The Friends
Relationships are works in progress, and often your partner’s friends are a big part of figuring out how things will progress. If you can’t stand their friends and make not true effort to work on that, then there isn’t really much of a chance of things lasting.

7.    The Sex
There was a time when it was exciting and fun, but now it’s nonexistent or just no fun.  If you can’t remember the last time you had sex, there’s a good chance your dry spell is about to get even longer.

8.    The Nag
Nothing you ever do is right.  Your partner finds fault in just about everything you do and never finds the time to acknowledge when you do right.  You nag too much, you don’t clean well enough, you’re in their business too much, you don’t text enough and so on.  While you continue to try to make it right it’s already over in your soon to be former partner’s mind.

How to respond to: “It’s Not You, It’s Me”

Monday, July 11th, 2011

You know you’ve either said it before, or you have it said to you.  It’s one of the biggest cop-out things anyone could ever hear when a breakup is happening: “It’s Not You, It’s me”.  This has motivated me to come up with a top ten list of things to SAY BACK when someone says it to you.

Are you ready?  Here are the Top Ten things to respond back with when someone tells you “It’s Not You, It’s Me”:


  1. “You’re right, It IS you, NOT me”


  1. “Finally you figured it out was you. I was beginning to think you were stupid!”


  1. “No need to be hard on yourself.  Not everyone is as overweight and ugly as you are.  It takes time. I’m glad you finally figured it out you had an issue”


  1. “I spoke to your mom last night. She said the same thing.”


  1. “Wow, I think we finally agree on something”


  1. “I invented that line. You are not allowed to say it! I’ll give you one more chance to come up with a better reason or I’m just going to dump you”


  1. “The only thing that is YOU is the big pimple on your forehead.  Now that’s YOU”


  1. “Thank You very much for telling me something I didn’t know. Can you pay for our dinner now since that’s the only thing you’re good for”


  1. “I’m sorry. What did you say?  I thought I heard you say you finally recognize how big of an idiot you are.  But that’s probably impossible, so can you repeat what you said please??”


  1. “You didn’t have to tell me that out loud. I knew you are having some major problems getting it up, and that’s all I needed to see.  Do you want me to get you some help?”

 This is a guest post by the author at

8 Signs You May be Getting Cheated on

Friday, July 8th, 2011

Here are a lot of signs you can read into to figure out if your partner is cheating on you.  While it always hurts when you realize someone you love isn’t being honest; it’s always better to find out sooner rather than later.  Here’s a list of my top 8.

1. Nagging

If, all of the sudden, your partner begins nagging you for every little thing, there’s a chance they have a nagging feeling of guilt that makes them need to lash out at you. Constant nagging, after a relatively nag free relationship is a huge clue.

2. Deflection

You used to be able to have a conversation without your partner trying to NOT answer simple questions.  Now, they become defensive for what would seem to be no reason.  A huge key to this is when you ask them a question and they hesitate or repeat the question back to you.  This usually means they are trying to come up with a plausible answer.

3. Priorities

Your relationship used to be the center of the universe and you had many implied dates set for each week.  Now, your partner is finding less and less time to spend with you and more with their new affair.

4. Sexy is back

You may like your partner just the way they are, but that won’t stop them from trying to dazzle their new fling. Just as you tried to impress each other at the beginning of your relationship, they’ll try to impress their new flame with a sudden urge to improve their style, and alter their physical appearance for the new fling in their life. So, while their desire to look sexier is one thing, not caring about your opinion on the matter is quite another.

5. Autonomy

One of the biggest signs they’re cheating on you is their breaking away from your little two-person unit to become more autonomous. He has dropped “we” from his vocabulary in favor of “I.” Moreover, he does more things on his own and stops consulting you about future plans. In short, he conducts himself in ways that hint that he no longer needs you to hold his hand. Whether he’s hoping you’ll leave him or simply looking for more time to lead his “double life,” it’s safe to conclude that he wants you out of the picture — he just can’t build up the nerve to leave you.

6. No Sex

When your relationship was new, the two of you were full of passion and open to spontaneous lovemaking. Now it’s all a bit iffy, whereby you’re rarely hitting the sheets and you’re only doing so if and when she feels like it.

On a slightly more ego-bashing note, she may suddenly become bored by your performance and appear to be thinking about someone else when you do make love. Cheating may be wrong, but you can’t deny that unlawful sex is usually more exhilarating. So, if you can no longer satisfy her sexually, someone else may be rubbing her the right way.

7. Secretive Schedule

He may claim to no longer have time for any extracurricular activities with you, yet he has one foot out the door the minute one of his friends calls. Either that or he has been “going away on business” one too many times. And when he does leave, his whereabouts are sketchy at best and you are somehow always the last to know.

Disclosing his itinerary to you at the last minute and overlooking your plans in the process can mean many things, one of which isn’t that he’s forgetting, but rather leaving you out.

8. Family Detachment

The fact that he no longer wants to attend your family’s functions or hang with your friends is one of our signs he’s cheating on you. This sign may be indicative of cheater’s remorse on his part, which means that he likely feels guilty about cheating. The less he immerses himself in your circles (which contain people who are painful reminders of his sins), the less mental anguish he’ll have to endure.


So what did we miss? What are some of your signs that you can tell someone has been unfaithful?

10 Horrifying Online Dating Stories

Monday, July 4th, 2011

Internet dating has become the norm for meeting someone and has worked for many people across the world.  However, not all dates turn out to be the best. Here’s a few stories of bad dates.

1.    Sock puppet? Really?

After deciding to meet a guy that she had met online, they met at a park and something strange happened.  The guy started talking to her with a sock puppet.  It wasn’t funny, it was creepy and she got out.

2.    Escape from your date.

After seeing some pictures of a reasonably handsome guy, and his nice bike, she decided to meet him.  The only recognizable thing was the bike.  His teeth were nasty, he was at least 15 years older than his picture and he had a cyst next to his left eye.  Promptly she found a way to make a clean getaway when he went inside to get some coffee.

3.    Moving a bit fast?

After deciding to meet for coffee  after IMing for awhile, here is the timeline of the date:
15 minutes in: He holds my hand. (After 15 min of struggling, my hand is held hostage. He was a foot taller and 100lbs heavier.)
30 minutes in: Him: (in the midst of coffee) “My mom is going to be happy… She wants me to get married already.”
45 minutes in: Him: “Oh, do you like places like that? Should we buy a place together like that?”
1 hr 15 min in: Him: “I really enjoyed our time together, I can’t wait to see you again!”
The next night on IM: Him: “So what are you going to tell your mom?”

4.    Mistaken Identity

We had spoken several times on AIM and the phone, but never met.  While out with a friend and her new beau, I drunkenly called him up and (since we happened to be out in the same neighborhood) we arranged to meet for the first time.  I suggested he come down to the bar we were at, but he insisted we meet on the nearby street corner.  I waited a few minutes and then walked down to meet him.  Standing on the corner, I was obviously very nervous.  I looked around, searching for him, but no one nearby even came close to resembling him.

Suddenly, across the street, I saw a man blatantly staring me down… But it wasn’t him (or was it?)… This man was approximately three times older than I’d anticipated and a hundred times creepier than I could’ve ever imagined.  He just kept staring and staring.  I searched the other street corners frantically, hoping to see the real guy approaching, but he was nowhere to be found.

The light changed and the old creepy man began crossing towards me, staring all the while.  I reached for my cell phone and called his number, but there was no answer.  The old creepy man came closer and closer.  I called again.  No answer.  Was this some kind of joke?  Was he really a creepy scary man who was going to attack me?!  Ahhhh!

Just as he was about to step up on the curb where I stood, I quickly turned and sprinted back to the bar I’d been at earlier and hid behind the bouncers outside.  Still no response from him and old creepy man was now walking down the street towards me again!  “I’m going to diiiiiiiiiie!” I screamed in my head.
The creepy man came closer… closer… closer… and walked right past the bar!

Then my phone rang.  It was him.  I went back down to the corner and there he was!  And after that close encounter with creepy man, I couldn’t have been happier to see him!

5.    Really scary

She’d had some experience with online dating and used many different services.  She had many responses to her profiles, but one potential companion stood out.  The emails were a little too good to be true, so she decided to do some detective work.  She looked him up on the sex offender registry, and lo and behold he had just been released from prison after serving years behind bars.  Who knows what would have happened if she had decided to actually meet the guy.

6.    The old standby, misleading photo.

One woman sounded really nice and her picture was incredible. A really hot looking 30-something blonde with a killer body in a little bikini, she immediately caught my eye.

Two weeks later, after a series of e-mails back and forth, we met at a restaurant on Union Street in San Francisco. When I got there, I had problems finding the place. She was blocking it, along with the sun. The last bikini this gal wore had to have been the size of the Bikini Islands. I am so grateful that the place where we met was a buffet; otherwise I would have had to take out a small business loan to cover the bill.

I’m not someone who is usually too hung up on looks, but to be deceived to this degree didn’t sit too well with me. I could see she had a pretty face, and I’m assuming that the photo she had on was at one time in the distant past actually her. But, since then she had gorged her way into being the behemoth that sat right in front of me well, actually all around me. Discouraged and feeling defrauded, I bailed out halfway through dessert, it was all-you can-eat and I could tell she was just getting started.

7.    Angry

We met online and dated for a few weeks. He showed incredible anger at the world. He got into a huge fight at a pool hall, while I was with him. Then he took me back to his house and showed me his gun vault with 22 firearms inside. He announced that one day, he just knew he was going to kill someone. I left and never came back!

8.    Truly messed up

He came to my door to pick me up for dinner. I wasn’t quite ready so I invited him inside. He came in, took one look at me up and down, seeing me for the first time. He then lunged at me, grabbing me and shoving his tongue in my mouth. I screamed and pushed him off. He said, come on baby, you know you want me to eat you out good!

9.    Bad news

Met the guy at the bar for a drink. He talked about sex nonstop and going back to my place immediately to “get it on”, then as if that was not bad enough, went on to admit that he was married.

10.   Poor Hamster

A friend of mine is trying internet dating. Recently, he has met a lady he liked and they were chatting online for weeks, having interesting conversations. Then she tells him an anecdote that’s supposed to be amusing– about how she sucked up her child’s pet hamster into the vacuum on purpose, to see what would happen. It died, of course. Isn’t that hilarious? My friend is somewhat horrified by this story and her blase joking attitude about it. Needless to say that was the last time they communicated.

100 Hilarious pickup lines

Thursday, June 30th, 2011

A fun list of lines to try out on your next unknowing victim.  Seriously try them; at the very least you’ll get a laugh.

You’re so pretty…

You’re so beautiful that you made me forget my pickup line.

You’d better direct that beauty somewhere else, you’ll set the carpet on fire.

If beauty were time, you’d be eternity.

I was so enchanted by your beauty that I ran into that wall over there. So I am going to need your name and number for insurance purposes.

Do you have a twin sister? Then you must be the most beautiful girl in the world!

Short and sweet

Be unique and different, say yes.

You’ll do.

Can I even get a fake number?

This time next year let’s be laughing together.

I’d look good on you.

St. Patty’s Day (all said with a bad Irish brogue)

I ain’t got four leaves, but if you pluck me, I’ll give you luck!

If you don’t sleep with me, the leprechauns have already won!

You look magically delicious, and I just happen to be a cereal lovemaker.

Well, ye caught me, lass! Now I can grant ye one wish, as long as it involves sex.

Why don’t you come catch a leprechaun with me? Maybe together we’ll get Lucky!


Baby, you’re so sweet, you put Hershey’s outta business.

Ouch! My tooth hurts! [Why?] Because you are soooo sweet!

I just had to come talk with you. Sweetness is my weakness.


I’m sorry, were you talking to me? [No] Well then, please start.

How much does a polar bear weigh? [How much?] Enough to break the ice… Hi, I’m (insert name here).

Hi, my name is Doug. That’s “god” spelled backwards with a little bit of you wrapped up in it. (Hopefully your name really is Doug)

(Ask a person for the time) 9:15? So today is May 1, 2008, at 9:15 PM, thanks I just wanted to be able to remember the exact moment that I met the woman/man of my dreams.

Well, I AM telepathic, and I can tell that you love me. Right? [NO!] Darn, I always get “love” and “lust” mixed up.

My buddies over there said that I wouldn’t be able to start a conversation with the most beautiful girl in the bar. Wanna buy some drinks with some of their money?

Say “I bet I can kiss you on the lips without touching you.” and kiss him, then tell him you lost the bet.

I want to tell you your fortune. [Take her hand and write your phone number on it.] Your future is clear.


I’m not trying to impress you or anything, but… I’m Batman!

Bond….James Bond


Am I cute enough yet? Or do you need more to drink?

You know the more I drink, the prettier you get!

This isn’t a beer belly; It’s a fuel tank for a love machine.

I’m not drunk; I’m just intoxicated by you.

Here’s $10. Drink until I am really good looking, then come and talk to me.

Your Eyes

Your eyes are as blue as window cleaner.

I never need to see the sun again because your eyes light up my world.

Your eyes are bluer than the Atlantic ocean, and baby I’m lost at sea!

I don’t know which is prettier today, the water, the sky or your eyes.

But your Butt

Are those space pants? Because your ass is out of this world!

[Point at her ass] Pardon me, is this seat taken?

Is that a keg in your pants? Cause I’d just love to tap that ass!

The Beach

I’ll show you my tan lines if you show me yours. 88

Sex on the mind

The word of the day is “legs.” Let’s go back to my place and spread the word.

That outfit would look great in a crumpled heap on my bedroom floor tomorrow morning.

I like every bone in your body especially mine.

Baby I’m like milk; I’ll do your body good.

I’ve got the F, the C, and the K. All I need is U.

Was your Father…?

a mechanic? Then how did you get such a finely tuned body?

king for a day? He must have been to make a princess like you.

a baker? Because you’ve got a nice set of buns.

an alien? Because there’s nothing else like you on Earth

a thief? ‘Cause someone stole the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes.

Crude and a little rude

Wow! Are those real?

Are your parents retarded, ’cause you sure are special.

I may not be the best-looking guy in here, but I’m the only one talking to you.

[you] Excuse me, would you like to dance? [them] NO! [you] Maybe u didn’t hear me…. I said u look really fat in those pants!

Excuse me, but does this smell like chloroform to you?

You don’t sweat much for a fat chick.


Ya know, you look really hot! You must be real reason for global warming.

You’re so hot you would make the devil sweat.

Are you a tamale? ‘Cause you’re hot.

Baby, you’re so hot, you make the equator look like the north pole.

How is your fever? [What fever?] Oh… you just look hot to me.

You’re so hot; I bet you could light a candle at 10 paces.

You know I’d like to invite you over, but I’m afraid you’re so hot you’ll skyrocket my air-conditioning bill.

Is your name Summer? ‘Cause you are as hot as hell.

You’re hotter than donut grease.


You may fall from the sky, you may fall from a tree, but the best way to fall… is in love with me.

Excuse me, but I’m new in town, can I have directions to your place?

Are you an overdue book? Because you’ve got FINE written all over you!

All those curves! And me with no brakes!

I would say God bless you but it looks like he already did.

Just plain funny

Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?

Well, here I am. What were your other two wishes?

You know what? Your eyes are the same color as my Porsche.

You see my friend over there? [Point to friend] He wants to know if YOU think I’M cute.

You know how they say skin is the largest organ on the human body? Not in my case.

People call me John, but you can call me Tonight!

Computer Geek

You can put a Trojan on my hard drive any time.

How about we do a little peer –to-peer saliva swapping?

Nice set of floppies!

Your homepage or mine?

Nope, not an iPod in my pocket, I’m just happy to see you.

Sci-Fi Geek

I may look like an Ewok but I’m all Wookie where it counts baby!

Your mouth says “Shields up!”, but your eyes say, “Hull breach imminent!”

Tell me of this thing you humans call (pause) love.

Once you make love to a man with Vulcan ears on you never go back.

Why don’t we head to my bedroom, peel back my Star Wars sheets, and discover what a true Jedi can do with his light sabre?


If you were a booger I’d pick you first.

Did you fart, cause you blew me away.

Hey…somebody farted. Let’s get out of here.

My love for you is like diarrhea, I just can’t hold it in!


Excuse me, but does this smell like chloroform to you?

Baby, you are so fine I could put you on a plate and sop you up with a biscuit.

(Walk up to someone and bite them anywhere) Sorry, taking a bite out of crime. [WHAT?] Well it has to be illegal to look that good!

If a fat man puts you in a bag at night, don’t worry I told Santa I wanted you for Christmas.

What’s a nice girl like you doing in a dirty mind like mine?

You know, if we cut off your arms, you’d look just like Venus de Milo

10 Online Dating Strategies

Monday, June 27th, 2011

When joining a dating site, not every person you are interested in is going to contact you right away, be incredibly pushy, or want to meet with you the day you start chatting.  Following these 10 strategies should help increase your chances of finding whatever it is you are looking for.  Also, you’re less likely to waste any time chatting with people who you have no interest in.

1. Be proactive

If you are used to waiting for someone to show interest in you, try the opposite.  Be the one in pursuit.  Some women and men like the chase of someone trying to get them out, so make sure you are trying to keep interested. Don’t be pushy as well though!

2. Keep it cool

Stay away from sex talk until the relationship is more stable and you know each other in ways that don’t include that kind of stuff.  If you get into the sex talk too early it is difficult to separate that lusty emotion from the rest of the relationship.  You’ll be better off in the long run by keeping the pillow talk by the pillows!

3. Nix the nookie

You really should avoid sex until you know you are both committed to the relationship.  I know, this seems old fashioned, but if you both wait until you are equally emotionally invested, it will be a much better long term relationship! Plus, it makes the sex better!

4. Slow Down

We all want to be loved, but you shouldn’t go from nothing straight to love in minutes.  Just like a house, relationships are built on a foundation, and you need to build that foundation of friendship and respect in order to leap to the love stage.

5. RL v VR (Real Life vs. Virtual Reality)

This is online dating strategies, but actually being with your partner in real life and making an effort to see each other in the real world is very important.   Email, texting and IMing can be fun, and sometimes this gives you a chance to be more honest, but nothing beats face to face communication. Go for a cup of coffee, a walk in the park, or dinner to really get to know someone.

6. Truth

Be yourself throughout the entire process.  The last thing you want is to make up some small white lie and lose the entire relationship once you get caught in that.  In being true to yourself and your partner, you can find more similarities or differences that can help you form or a solid foundation for a relationship.

7. Be clear

Be clear from the start about how you want and don’t want to be treated. It is better to know how your new partner responds to your boundaries and standards.  If they know what you are looking for, they will be more willing to chat with you about what they are also looking for.

8. Don’t Compare

Understand who your new partner is.  Don’t spend all of your time comparing them to past partners in good or bad ways.  This is something entirely new and should be treated that way.  Comparing them to the last person you dated will cause jealousy and a potential breakup down the road.

9. Accept, or don’t

Don’t expect to change something about your partner once you’ve become closer.  If they are comfortable with something that bugs or annoys you, don’t expect them to change that action after you’ve gone out for a while.  If something annoys you, tell them, and if they are willing to fix it, let them, but if not, it may be time to go back online.

10. Have fun

Have fun. Connect. Learn. Dating is wonderful. It’s a chance to meet new and interesting people and do fun activities. It’s an opportunity for growth as a person. If you do it gently, without jeopardizing your emotional well-being, it will add sparkle to your life.


10 Dont’s in Online Dating: How NOT to meet someone online

Wednesday, June 22nd, 2011

When joining an online dating site, you want to give people some information about yourself that will help them decide if you are a potential match.  However there are a lot of dont’s in dating in general, but here are the top 10 dont’s in online dating.

1. Don’t give your life story via e-mail

There is no more of a turn off when a person can’t stop talking about themselves. Talking to much can be seen as being needy, so keep the messages reasonably short and never ramble.

2. Don’t start the sex talk

Another big turn off is when someone starts talking about intimacy before the relationship has gotten there.  All in good time.  Unless you are on an adult dating site looking for the same thing, then keep the bedroom talk to yourself until you are both ready.

3. Don’t lie

It is so easy to make stuff up when you are online, but if you want an actual date and a possible relationship, a lie will be a huge wall in the future.  If you don’t feel like your income is high enough or something like that, just upsell something else about yourself.  Be truthful and honest, and if they are only after your money, it’s probably not a good fit anyways.

4. Don’t over IM or text

I’m not saying you shouldn’t use the technology available in today’s society.  You should, but not overly so.  This is like being up in someone’s face all of the time.  Texting, emailing or IMing constantly can turn out to be a real nuisance.  It’s a tough balance, but you should be able to tell if a conversation via one of these media is going well enough to send more messages.

5. Don’t spread yourself to thin

While on an online dating site, it is very possible to date more than one person at a time.  But if you are courting too many people, it can become confusing or you could easily make mistakes in your conversations.

6. Don’t be too eager for a face to face

This is along the same thoughts of a couple of the previous dont’s.  If you ask for a meetup too early you may never hear from you interest again.  The general rule is to wait a week after your first contact with your love interest before asking about the big face to face meeting.

7. Don’t give your personal info up

I feel like I shouldn’t even have to list this one, but there is so much fraud out there you really need to protect yourself from cons and the like.  You will know when it’s time to share the more personal information, but never put financial or login info out there for anyone to find or steal.

8. Don’t go out with someone simply for “practice.”

Only go out with people you think you could be attracted to; physically and intellectually. Dating someone you aren’t into for practice is like cooking a recipe you know you hate. You’ll dirty your dishes, but you won’t have anything to eat.

9. Don’t take it personally

Online rejection can happen.  If it does, move on to the next one, and find love there.  Staying hung up on a rejection can and will affect your ability to meet new prospective love interests.

10. Don’t have clichés in your profile

Everyone likes music and beaches.  Be original and people that have similar interests will find you, and vice versa.


Hopefully this list will help you find someone like yourself when you join an online dating site?  What are some other “Dont’s” that we missed?

Top 10: MetroDate

Tuesday, June 21st, 2011
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Tuesday, June 21st, 2011
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Tuesday, June 21st, 2011
The world’s largest dating website catering to every demographic, FriendFinder users will find whatever they are looking for. Whether it’s a fling, love & romance, or just a long term friend, users have been amazed with what this site offers individuals. Thousands of users have even taken the plunge and met their life partner on here.
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Tuesday, June 21st, 2011
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Tuesday, June 21st, 2011
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Tuesday, June 21st, 2011
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