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Top 20 Gay Blogger Influential Personalities

Wednesday, August 31st, 2011

This is a list of what I think is the top 20 Bloggers relevant to the gay community. I would like your input, so please do let me know what you think about my list.

1. – A good site on the gay community including daily updates, celebrity updates, political updates and general information relevant to a gay community.

2. – EDGE is the largest network of local Gay, Lesbian Bisexual and Transgender (GLBT) news and entertainment portals in the world, serving 500,000 dedicated readers from a variety of metropolitan areas around the United States and beyond.

3. – A good travel site catering to the gay community needs with lots of information on places to travel, stay, enjoy and have a great time while on the road.

4. – A writer for over 20 years and has written a lot on both fiction and non-fiction for the LGBT community.

5. – This site has consistently been ranked in top 10 gay blogs over the years. Lots of information to read through.

6. – Queers United is the blog uniting the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersexual, & Asexual communities in an effort of education and activism on issues of importance to sexual/gender minorities.

7. –  Downelink is a social networking community for the LGBTQ community.

8. – A personal blog that has been likened by many in the gay community.

9. – A good information resource for standing up against bullies.

10.  – Author simply called Vera, who has some funny stuff and some sexy stuff here.

11. – Not a dedicated gay site but has lots of funny content relevant to the gay community. I get good laughs from some of these videos.

12. – All the latest news stories about gay community delivered in a satirical manner. A touch of sensitivity is advised.

13. – Not a blog but a great tool to find the next gay guy nearest to you while you are on the go.

14. – A localized version of the gay event happening in your area. Get involved.

15. – Like the site says, it talks about the gay agenda and provides a good source of information.

16.  – Observations of a gay dad. Nice.

17. – Gay community stories and latest happenings

18. – A personal blog with very savvy opinions on different topics.

19. – NSFW, Reviews of sex toys, with humor. Find out what you’re missing as far as intimate devices.


10 Ways to Come Out to your Family and Friends

Tuesday, August 30th, 2011
First of all, there is nothing more painful than not being who you are. And your family and friends love you for who you are. So its perfectly OK to be honest with them and let them know about the real you. Here are some tips that may help you.

1. Write a letter to all your close ones – family and friends – and let them know about your feelings and who you really are. There is nothing more powerful than your emotions and its an amazing human ability to share it with someone. Plus by putting it on paper, you will get more comfortable with the idea.

2. Randomly go through your contact list, and the first person you choose, pick up the phone, call them and tell them you are gay. That easy.

3. Go to a gay-friendly outing with your special someone and let others know about it.

4. If you have a facebook or twitter page, let you followers know about it.

5. Make a blog. Put down your emotions and tell it like it is.

6. Kiss someone.

7. Participate in local gay events like the PRIDE parade.

8. Introduce your special someone to your family and friends.

9. Have a party! there is nothing more joyous than to have a party and share with everyone how happy you are.

10. Go out for lunch or dinner with friends or family and let them know how you really feel.

Create a Better Dating Experience in Just Minutes: Nine Dating Tips

Tuesday, August 16th, 2011

It’s usually the first 10 minutes into a date that one or both parties will make a determination as to whether a second date will eventuate, hence setting up the tone for the remainder of the date. But is this a wise frame of mind to in?

An Australian women’s magazine polled their readers which consisted of 2200 respondents, the published results indicated that 83% of first dates never make it past this initial stage. Relationships expert, Diane Bishop said, “Most people make the mistake of overlooking a potential love interest if there are no sparks or romantic signals within the very early stages of the date, even if your date is a nice person but offered no initial romantic attraction, sometimes it’s worth pursuing a second date to determine if a person could potentially develop into something more.”

With my job as a matchmaking advisor, people usually tend to waste golden opportunities rather than use these interactions as a learning curb, to find out more about other people and themselves. Any date or interaction you experience, on any level, should be considered part of your journey, not a waste of time.

1. Don’t be negative because of past experiences. Even though your last few dates might be described as non-eventful does not mean you should take this attitude into the next time you’re dating somebody new. “I really hope this guy likes me” instead of “here we go again, another bad date”, always keep an open mind, you’ll be in a far better head space to determine how you might feel about him. Give it your best chance to succeed, not your worst.

2. Try and come up with 3 simple things you like or admire about him rather than nit picking from the outset as most people tend to do. Even something simple like the way he dresses, the restaurant venue he chose or his level of eye contact: What do you like about him? 

3. Offer a compliment. You can play your part in settling the nerves of your date thus setting up a far more enjoyable evening. Watch and see how quickly he loosens up when you pay him a simple compliment, you’ll get to see what he’s really like much sooner, and besides, a compliment is a nice gesture.

4. Think of it as practice. Use the experiences as a way to improve your people person skills until Mr. I love you finally makes his appearance. Dating a wide variety of people only makes you a sounder judge of character.

5. Leave your agenda behind. If the guy your dating does not do it for you within the first 10 – 15 minutes of meeting, it’s time to go into second phase mode. There’s a wealth of possibilities that can crop up. By limiting your outlook, you could very well miss opportunities such as meeting a new network of friends, or even a business opportunity. Either way, there could be some other significant message you can take away from the experience. What have you got to lose, you’re already there so make the most of it.

6. Ask him questions: But be selective with the topics you discuss. Don’t start complaining about all the bad dates you’ve gone on, or how your ex won’t stop stalking you – nobody likes a drama queen. Pick up the phone conversation where you left off, “Tell me a bit more about the places you visited on your trip to Australia.”

7. Ignore the little voices in your head. The one’s that try to tell you that you’re not good enough for this guy, or this date is a total waste of time and energy. Please, keep reminding yourself that it’s an opportunity you don’t want to miss, so hang in there and see what you can get out of the date.

8. It’s not about control. You’re there to find out about the person you’re dating, not yourself. Refrain from trying to read his mind or analyze his thoughts – just relax and go with the flow.

9. Be empathetic and kind. There’s every chance the person your with has the same levels of insecurities as yourself. Try and not get caught up with some assumption that you think you wouldn’t be able to live with, don’t pre-empt something too soon, give him a fighting chance to grow on you. And no matter how the date ends, make sure he feels good about himself, and not a total reject if sparks don’t fly, and in doing so, you’ll spread good karma too.

It’s part of human nature to long for a life time partner, someone you can share a deeper sense of understanding with, a sense of trust and love. So until this person comes into your life, offer the other people who come in and out of your life the utmost respect, this is the kind of attitude that pays off in the long run.

About the author: Matt Fuller is a matchmaking consultant and relationships author. Matt writes about topics relating to free online dating sites for single people as well as singles dating sites reviews.

8 Signs You May be Getting Cheated on

Friday, July 8th, 2011

Here are a lot of signs you can read into to figure out if your partner is cheating on you.  While it always hurts when you realize someone you love isn’t being honest; it’s always better to find out sooner rather than later.  Here’s a list of my top 8.

1. Nagging

If, all of the sudden, your partner begins nagging you for every little thing, there’s a chance they have a nagging feeling of guilt that makes them need to lash out at you. Constant nagging, after a relatively nag free relationship is a huge clue.

2. Deflection

You used to be able to have a conversation without your partner trying to NOT answer simple questions.  Now, they become defensive for what would seem to be no reason.  A huge key to this is when you ask them a question and they hesitate or repeat the question back to you.  This usually means they are trying to come up with a plausible answer.

3. Priorities

Your relationship used to be the center of the universe and you had many implied dates set for each week.  Now, your partner is finding less and less time to spend with you and more with their new affair.

4. Sexy is back

You may like your partner just the way they are, but that won’t stop them from trying to dazzle their new fling. Just as you tried to impress each other at the beginning of your relationship, they’ll try to impress their new flame with a sudden urge to improve their style, and alter their physical appearance for the new fling in their life. So, while their desire to look sexier is one thing, not caring about your opinion on the matter is quite another.

5. Autonomy

One of the biggest signs they’re cheating on you is their breaking away from your little two-person unit to become more autonomous. He has dropped “we” from his vocabulary in favor of “I.” Moreover, he does more things on his own and stops consulting you about future plans. In short, he conducts himself in ways that hint that he no longer needs you to hold his hand. Whether he’s hoping you’ll leave him or simply looking for more time to lead his “double life,” it’s safe to conclude that he wants you out of the picture — he just can’t build up the nerve to leave you.

6. No Sex

When your relationship was new, the two of you were full of passion and open to spontaneous lovemaking. Now it’s all a bit iffy, whereby you’re rarely hitting the sheets and you’re only doing so if and when she feels like it.

On a slightly more ego-bashing note, she may suddenly become bored by your performance and appear to be thinking about someone else when you do make love. Cheating may be wrong, but you can’t deny that unlawful sex is usually more exhilarating. So, if you can no longer satisfy her sexually, someone else may be rubbing her the right way.

7. Secretive Schedule

He may claim to no longer have time for any extracurricular activities with you, yet he has one foot out the door the minute one of his friends calls. Either that or he has been “going away on business” one too many times. And when he does leave, his whereabouts are sketchy at best and you are somehow always the last to know.

Disclosing his itinerary to you at the last minute and overlooking your plans in the process can mean many things, one of which isn’t that he’s forgetting, but rather leaving you out.

8. Family Detachment

The fact that he no longer wants to attend your family’s functions or hang with your friends is one of our signs he’s cheating on you. This sign may be indicative of cheater’s remorse on his part, which means that he likely feels guilty about cheating. The less he immerses himself in your circles (which contain people who are painful reminders of his sins), the less mental anguish he’ll have to endure.


So what did we miss? What are some of your signs that you can tell someone has been unfaithful?

Top 10 Gay TV Characters

Wednesday, June 8th, 2011

There have been a multitude of openly at not so openly gay characters on the small screen for decades, but only in the last few years have we seen some of the funniest, most serious and most well written gay male characters. From ground breakers to laugh makers, from witches to gangsters, these 10 characters are the best of the best, and we salute them with this list.

Will Truman (Will & Grace)

Will & Grace ran on TV for eight wonderfully hilarious seasons. Will was the more serious lawyerly type, with a few small neuroses and BFFs with Grace.  Always getting along with Grace, their antics always made for great television.

Kurt (Glee)

Glee as a television show itself has fostered a huge advancement of the LGB agenda into the general conversation of the nation as a whole. Kurt is the boy with the soprano voice who once was picked on by the jocks, but now is friends with one and gaining more confidence in every episode.

Jack McFarland (Will & Grace)

Jack was the crazy one. Always with a plan and enjoying snickering at other’s pitfalls. One of the funniest characters in all sitcoms of all time.  Now he will be playing one of the Three Stooges in the remaking of the classic characters.

Marc St. James (Ugly Betty)

A dirty rotten scoundrel who took pleasure in others pain. Not exactly who I would think is top gay material, but he had his moments.  It’s a shame this show is no longer on television.  It really got off to a fast start, but slowed down as it lost viewers.

Jack McPhee (Dawson’s Creek)

I might be dating myself, but as a young college boy, this guy was the shiznit. One of he first gay characters that I remember, he had to deal with a lot of demons on television before a lot of gay television characters were introduced.

Sam Adama (Caprica)

OK, I’m a techy and a nerd, bite me. Caprica is a futuristic past kinda like Star Wars, and one of the main characters’ brother (Sam) has a complete gay family. In sci-fi that just seems like the norm, which brings it into the norm for us.

Lafayette Reynolds (True Blood)

Who doesn’t love Vampire shows these days. This is the grown up version of the Twilight saga with better characters, acting, and writers.  Lafayette is the overt male hooker with some sort of witch tendencies that are about to show themselves in the upcoming season.  This show is incredibly popular and one of HBO’s current offerings.

Cameron Tucker (Modern Family)

Cameron is the chubbier of the pair of the best of what makes Modern Family. He and his man adopted a Korean baby and they clash over everything, but make it work. Cameron is the dry humor guy most of the time.  Cameron screaming like a woman to break his baby out of a locked car is one of my favorite scenes.

Mitchell Pritchett (Modern Family)

Mitchell is the more high strung guy who has to deal regularly with his “masculine” father and is more defensive of the life. He sometimes works himself into a corner on some of the craziest subjects.  Physically smaller than Cameron, Mitchell is still the “man” of the house.

Max Blum (Happy Endings)

As of late, Max is my favorite character.  and that’s why he makes this list. I’m a guy like him, I like sports, I’m not effeminate, and I like guys. To be gay doesn’t mean change who you are to fit that mold from more than one side. Max is more real than most closet gay men want to admit, trust me.


That is the Top 10 list of the Top 10 gay television characters. While this list is in no way perfect, I feel these are some of the best performances on television over the past 20-30 years.  Who did we miss?  Add your additions in the comment section!